You and your partner have communication problems. You sometimes feel like you don’t speak the same language.
Communication between you and your partner is often strained or hostile.
You have intense fights which are stressful – maybe even traumatic.
You long for you and your partner to talk to each other more easily so that you can enjoy each other again.
Having communication problems with your partner can be a lonely, frustrating stressful experience. One or both of you may yell and lose control. Alternatively, you may “afraid to express your needs and desires in order to “keep the peace.”
Unexpressed expectations are resentments waiting to happen.
Oftentimes when communication breaks down in intimate relationships, one or both partners begin making assumptions about how their partner feels, will react, or views the relationship.
These made up “stories” can be highly destructive. When one or both partners have unspoken expectations, they may feel slighted or angry when they are not met.
Many couples and families struggle with communication.
Couples and family communication breakdowns are extremely common.They are one of the main reasons that couples and families come for therapy.
In healthy relationships, couples and families identify the negativity that threaten to pull them apart, and then navigate these conflicts and challenges as a team. They operate with awareness, consideration and respect.
These kinds of healthy relationships don’t happen by chance. Like most of the really good things in life, they take work, willingness and commitment.
Like countless other couples, your relationship may have fallen victim to the destructive communication patterns that can develop over time.
If you and your partner or family overreact or withdraw rather than effectively problem solve, couples and family therapy can help get your relationship back on track.
But, you still may have questions or concerns...
We desperately need help, but my partner is resistant to couples therapy.
While it’s ideal that both partners are willing to engage in counseling as a couple, there is a lot that you can do on your own to improve the dynamic of your relationship.
In individual relationship therapy, you can overcome the negative communication patterns that you and your partner have built up over time. You can become more aware about what you bring to the relationship and work on shifting your communication style.
You can explore how you handle conflict and think about how your words, feelings and actions affect your partner. You can also gain clarity on your needs, feelings and personal boundaries and learn how to express yourself to your partner in more active, thoughtful and loving ways.
Couples / family therapy can take up a lot of time and it isn’t cheap. I’m not sure it’s worthwhile.
Couples and family therapy is an investment in yourself, your partner and your family, as well as your relationship. If you are a parent, you know that you and your partner are the leaders of your family, and whatever is occurring in your relationship – be it good, bad or ugly – affects everyone in your home.
The stress created by a strained relationship can also negatively impact other aspects of your life, such as productivity at work, how you interact with friends and other family members, and how you feel about yourself.
By investing in your relationship now, you are not only creating the opportunity to communicate more actively and positively with you partner, but the skills you learn in couples and family therapy at Cartersville Counseling & Therapy can be used to improve all your relationships and lead to a more productive, empowered and authentic life.